“We think that the point is to pass the test or overcome the problem, but the truth is that things don’t really get solved. They come together and they fall apart. Then they come together again and fall apart again. Its just like that. The healing comes from letting there be room for all of this to happen: room for grief, for relief, for misery, for joy.” — Pema Chodron
Its just like that isn’t it? Sometimes it feels like, really, here we are again? But its not really about reaching the goal or getting to the end is it? Its about the process along the way. What did you learn? What worked and what didn’t? Did you let yourself feel? The pain? The grief? The joy and the success? Did you take time to celebrate? Nothing is ever wasted! Mistakes are so valuable. Pain helps us grow. Awareness and acknowledgement, yes! That is living. It comes it goes. Its up its down. Its clear its confusing.
Recently, I’ve spent a lot of time processing, reflecting, and sitting with uncomfortable emotions. I have analyzed things with my brain, and I have embodied my feelings with my body and soul. I have had difficult and vulnerable conversations. I have been brave. Sometimes I did or said things I regret, and sometimes I did things that made me feel proud of myself. Throughout all of this I was honest, with myself, with others, and I didn’t run away or hide.
We can’t change the past, but we can use it help us. We can’t predict the future, but we can keep shedding layers of ourselves and opening up new opportunities of growth. We can remain grounded in the present moment and live through whatever comes our way. Putting one step in front of the other, taking one day at a time, inhaling and exhaling, with gratitude for all the experiences we get to have.